My friend saw some school children drinking beer and smoking cigarettes near a shopping mall .He tried to stop them and they told him to go and hang. He was very angry and decided to beat them so that they would not do it again. One of the small boys picked his cell phone and spoke to someone crying. Within few minutes an audi A6 had arrived. An elegant woman came out with her head high and told my friend that she had suffered alone for nine months to bear her child and that if ever my friend was to raise a hand on the son he should be prepared to go before the courts to answer assault charges My friend left the scene very embarrassed and discouraged ,wondering how the world was loosing it.
Parents we do not show love to your children by spoiling them, children should be beaten if they misbehave, that’s how you show them that you love them. A child who is spared from a rod is going to be a disaster in the future. Today we have parents taking their children to beer drinking spots instead of the church.The church helps to groom a child in the way of God. It enables children to be disciplined and also respect elders. Children of these have been spoiled to such an extent that you get scared to rebuke them because they can pick a stone and work on you nicely. We are not doing justice to the future by continuously boasting that it’s the nature of today that the children should misbehave. Children of today are being spoilt in the name of love and it worries to think of the future where these same spoilt children will be leaders
When we were growing there was no nonsense, we knew that the child once born belonged to the country and anyone could chastise him/her. If you were misbehaving in class a teacher would not spare a rod, they would beat you until you towed the line, however children of today go with cell phones to school. If you threaten to beat the child for misbehaving the child would tell you that he/she will call a family lawyer. I don’t think we are doing justices to future generations.
Our parents used to tell us folktales and stories that helped us to develop as future parents and leaders ,but today the children are being exposed to violent movies and pornography. This is mainly because both parents go to work and come very tired in the evening to come and sleep. If a child tries to chat with any of the parents they would chase the child off claiming that they are tired from a board meeting. The child will be left at the discretion of the maid who might not have time for the child. All the maid can do is to give a child a computer or television so as to have more time to herself. How then can we curb unwanted pregnancy and child abuse if we are not there for our children. Parents it does not help to accumulate a lot of wealth with undisciplined children because the wealth will become a catalyst to an early grave for them .Passion killings ,robbery and drunkardness are symptoms of a spoilt and bad past. Most of these cases though they are exceptions are as a result of poor parenting. They know about dating when they are eight years .Technology has also complicated the problem because they develop networks of trading drugs and dating. I appreciate that I am old fashioned but I still feel that if you truly love your child control what they see on computers and television because it molds them. When we were growing we were shy to sit next to a girl, but today its different.
The best way to groom a child is taking him or her to Sunday school at church where they will be trained good morals and respect of another person as an image of God. I know that in Zimbabwe things are tight, but that should be no excuse to neglect children. Let’s continue to discipline children as they are our hope for a better future. Let’s continue to encourage them to be positive in life as one day things will get better. If we neglect these children we will be compounding the problem than help it.
Some parents have developed modern methods of punishing children like I wont take you to Nandos , this technique will not work for sure. Children need to be chastised with a whip that’s all. If I see a child misbehaving I will not wait for the parents, I will beat the child up and explain to the court later that I beat the child for misbehaving and I will do it again.
Simbarashe Chirimubwe
Botswana
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